Bloomingdale Therapy for Infidelity

Infidelity is the act of engaging in and investing in emotional and/or sexual activities with another person(s) outside of your committed relationship without the knowledge of your partner. What counts as infidelity is a debate that most couples have. Acts of infidelity and betrayal can be identified by the following:

• The behavior has impacted the trust in a relationship.
• The behavior was done in secret.

Surviving Infidelity

Learning that your partner has been cheating on you can bring on a wave of emotions. Whether you have known of multiple affairs or are just finding out, the impact can be traumatizing. It’s quite common to feel powerless, unwanted, and uncertain about your future while at the same time cycling between love and hate for your partner.

What Are the Next Steps?

Should I stay with them or should I leave? This question should not be taken lightly. Unpacking what the best step would be for you individually and as a family should take into account what your primary need is at that time. Do not feel pressured to make a decision immediately. Too often, misguided advice is provided by those who may have good intentions. Every couple has a different situation, so what worked for one couple may not work for the next. It’s important to understand your story and your specific goals. The foundation of your relationship was built over time; therefore, repairing it (if you choose) will require some time as well.

Affair Recovery as a Couple

Rebuilding your relationship will take into account the damage caused by the betrayal, in addition to addressing any previous pains that may have existed within the relationship. This could include poor communication habits, ineffective conflict management, unresolved issues, and life transitions within the relationship (such as parenting, grief, etc.). To adequately address your history as a couple, an in-depth assessment will be conducted, providing you with detailed feedback on what your recovery journey would look like in your specific situation.